Sunday, March 19, 2006

Knocked up and out!

Just writing impromptu today. Didn't think over this thing much. But I thought I must put it down before it vaporizes from my memory space.
So they finally accepted that they are not yet prepared to give sex-education to kids studying in Maharashtra board. Of course, they blame it on the kids, saying they are not 'mature' enough to handle SUCH A SENSITIVE issue! Sensitive my ....!
But no use taking my frustration out on these intellectually challenged parents and teachers, for they themselves haven't got it the right way.
You might wonder why should I be frustrated. I can send my kids to CBSE/ICSE schools or educate them at home about certain facts of life. By stepping back from its tentative plans to introduce formal sex-education in schools, the board simply re-enforced how retro our education system is. But there is a reason I take it personally.
Little kids keep coming to my hospital with various complaints. Little kids from orphanages. They are referred to as Ashram babies. But you don't have to look into their files or even the typical printed rugs they are rapped in to make out they don't have families. You just look at them and you know. They are emotionally deprived. They never show stranger-anxiety, an important milestone in a 'normal' child's development. They'd look at you when they are hungry, for they don't know the concept of a mother. They have been fed by various faces. They suck on their thumbs, for food is always poured into their mouths with metal. They don't talk. They walk late too. They raise their arms begging for a hug when you go to them.
I won't elaborate how much emotionally stirred you can by these things.
But it is a fact that children need tactile stimulation for their growth in early years. That, apart from proper food, hygiene, health-care and emotional stimuli. Deprived of these basic supports, they fall prey to majority of illnesses in their most virulent forms. If they make it to their second birthday, they still remain intellectually and emotionally under-developed.
And where do they come from? Some silly teenager who never had an opportunity to know about her body, falls in 'love' with a crook 10 years elder to her and gets knocked up. She is so silly that its only after her tummy starts showing up and women of the house-hold confront her, she comes to know that she's pregnant! Then the whole family either disowns her or simply asks her to get rid of the life in her without letting the society know. Its too late now. So she brings the unwanted life out into the world and never sees its face again.
If only she knew that making love is making babies and you can prevent the latter by some very simple precautions, if only she knew that unsafe sex may get her pregnant and she can still do something about it, if only she knew that the life she created is her responsibility and no matter what the society says, she loves it too much to abandon it, her child would know the security and love of family.
And who stopped her from knowing it all? The teachers who know everything, but aren't comfortable talking about it. Those goddamn hypocrites are creating orphans every day!
They ought to understand that its the BMC schools that provide education to the lowest economic class of children. Girls seldom continue their education beyond 8th or 10th std. Richer kids have access to various learning material and they know it. They may turn into pervs, but they at least know. Sex education or shall we say 'family-life education' is the need of the hour. We are already over-populated and the unwanted pregnancies symbolize a saying in hindi- garibi mein ata geela! We cannot afford luxury of comfort. These girls must be told where they came from. The knowledge-attitude-practices gap, so called KAP GAP cannot be closed by postponing introduction of sex-education in BMC schools.
For the sake of the innocent lives who never had a say in the decisions of their existence, lets just tell the kids...

6 Comments:

At Sunday, March 19, 2006, Blogger Sumedh said...

A very interesting perspective on the consequences of withholding sex education.

And you mentioned something that I've had very strong feelings about since a while now - innocent lives who had no say in the decision of their existence. What happens to the 'extra' innocents in the lab they're created under the name of IVF? http://sumedhonline.tripod.com/babysday.htm

 
At Sunday, March 19, 2006, Blogger Shiva said...

True true... Not just the teenage pregnancies, but i think a large chunk of the ashram kids are a result of the archaic views held by orthodox families (majority of them are poor and uneducated, but it's also pretty prevalent among many educated orthodox folks too)The firm belief and desire to have a male child and the prestige that is associated with the birth of a male child is one of the prime reasons for a high population. The couples don't stop producing children until they are blessed with a male child... as a result they let go of their girl children and abandon them on the roads, which are taken up by the ashrams. This is a major cause of inflow of Ashram kids. So not just sex education, but a complete family education which includes morality lessons and convinces the folks to dispel their stone age views regarding girl children is the need of the hour.
As Park (PSM) rightly says "Education is the best contraceptive"

You may have noticed that the government is trying to get the message across by printing "Educate the girl child" and "Mulgi Shikli, Pragati Zhali" behind all new rickshaws. I hope that it makes an impact for those who can read.

 
At Sunday, March 19, 2006, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You are absolutely spot on Spriha .. Sex-education is really the need of the hour ..

i remember my own case ,, where i was first introduced to the concept of sex by my frnd .. and i also vividly remember the way i outright rejected his 'theory' of having babies !!
this happened when i was in seventh standard ...
fortunately the talk was very clean .. he really tried hard to explain me (novice) the concepts ..

then 2 years later ,, i heard my school was abt to give 'Adult' education (not 'Sex education') to all its senior students ..
we hoped we wud b offically and professionally introduced to the 'Adult' world ..
but that didnt happen .. the session occurred .. i dont remember what was taught but i can surely say that the discussion was nowhere close to 'Sex'or matters related to it ...

then i was introduced to the 'graphic internet' world of sex ,, again by my frnd. ,, after getting into M.B.B.S (yes , i know i joined the party very late !)

this was my personal story ,, where u can clearly see that my early knowledge abt sex was from my peers ..but i got into the reality of it quite quickly (and nicely) ..

but others r not so fortunate ..
slum dwellers or , for tht matter , even , ashram dwellers get introduced to the 'Adult' world the hard way .. 'cause of which their concepts abt sex get totally changed ... they r forced to face sexual harassment silently .. and in turn , they transfer their 'tainted' knowledge of sex to others ..
and the chain reaction continues ..

and by the way ..i saw that a certain 'Sumedh' was posting comments regularly .. so i thought i shud visit his site as well .. and it turned out that i know him ..
i m not sure whether he remembers me or not ( didnt mingle much when i was in G.S ) ..
but anyways .. HI SUMEDH ..

 
At Monday, March 20, 2006, Blogger spriha said...

I was talking about this thing with Sam today and she pointed out another very important aspect of sex-education- sexual abuse of children. It is very essential for the parents to know and understand this very disturbing crime that happens very frequently in our society. And they must tell their children about it in the most appropriate manner too. I can't imagine of all the sects, parents and teachers oppose formal sex education, the ones who care the most for children. Its silly...
Btw, Ajish, I mostly got my peice of info by observing monkeys and cats around my house (in BARC there is a jungle in every backyard) and watching discovery. So, lucky you...
And Shiva, you just explained the broad spectrum of sex-education that I couldn't put forward well enough. It is indeed family-life education.
I've commented on Sumedh's blog about IVF embryos...

 
At Wednesday, March 22, 2006, Blogger Sumedh said...

Hello, Ajish! Of course I remember you...
We both happen to have rare names - difficult to forget ;-)

By the way, there's a medical symposium on Organ Donation in KEM organized by the Rotaract Club of the Caduceus on Monday, 27th. Details are at http://sumedhonline.tripod.com/symp.htm
Do try to make it and spread the word... it promises to be very interesting.

 
At Saturday, April 22, 2006, Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi spri here i am finally.I think u r doin a great job of throwing light on this aspect of sex education amongst the masses.as u know tat currently i'm doing wharf project on hiv,what i experienced while taking a case,female bachhu 6yrs old ic state +ve,parents and sibs turned out to be neg.What strikes u when u c such a case is "child abuse".But when it came to me as an interviewer i couldn't touch on this point as to how am i gonna convey it to her mom that your child must be sexually abused or so.I could only tell her abt routes of infections but it really irritated me that due to lack of sex education to this parent she could not grasp what i meant and finally she says tat 'woh gaon mein doctor se sui lagate the uske wajah se hua hoga'...and there ends my efforts to converse with her.
anyways its just the beginning for us hope we as health care givers bring these drawbacks of our system of education to light.
keep up the good job spriha..

 

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